Ok, I came out to my friend. What happens next?
You don't know how stuffed with wrong ideas your friend's mind can be, so you have to be here to answer his questions. It might be hard for him/her too!
Here are some commons reactions you might get:
How do you know that you're gay if you never had sex yet?
How do you know that you're straight if you never had sex yet?
Exactly the same thing. If you never had sex with anyone doesn't mean you don't know who you want to have sex with!
You don't need to taste both flavors to see which one you prefer, then decide that you're gay or straight.
Sexuality isn't a choice!
(But then again, that is if you are sure about your sexuality. If you're confused, that's a whole other story)
People say that, a man is happy as long as his penis is. (Same thing applies to woman, trust me, they are as dirty as us, if not more!)
Well, your penis is happy when you see a hot woman. My penis is happy when I see a hot guy.
Therefore, guys make me happy and I want to date guys.
If you're in a relationship, are you going to be the man or the woman?
This is the funniest one I got!
If we keep the bedroom away from the topic, it's still called same-sex relationship for a reason!
Every guy has a type I guess, but if you're macho or super manly, you don't have to go out with some feminine guy just cause there has to be a "woman" in the relationship!
A feminine guy is a guy.
Moreover, we all grow up with this imagine of the perfect opposite-sex couple.
The man who goes to work, provide for the family.
The stay-at-home mom, who cooks dinner.
Now more and more we can spot a lot of couples that do not follow this stereotype: Single moms or dads, stay-at-home dads...
Does that mean you'll never fall in love?
A relationship is based on love and nothing else. Being with someone from the same sex as you does not mean this person only pleases you in bed, this person also makes you happy.
Gay relationships are not only about sex!
Are you mentally ill?
Being gay is not a mental illness! It is not some kind of abnormal sickness, and it is not freaking contagious!
Yes, the suicide rate for gay teenager is higher than for normal teenager.
But as long as you haven't been gay, you cannot imagine the confusion, the trust-issues, the challenges, the loneliness, the homophobia, the bullying, the name-calling every gay man or woman has to face every day!
So, the depressions are caused only by the society we live in.
Don't forget that every time you come out to someone, every time you clear these ideas up, every time someone accepts you for who you are, you are making this world a better place and fighting against homophobia and ignorance!
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Stalking Much?
Look kid, I know that you admire me and that you respect me so much that you freaking Googled my Twitter bio to see where I got it from.
But when you find something as personal as my my blog, which I never wanted to share with you, basically cause you scare the hell out of me, you don't start to read every freaking post I posted, and you don't start to tweet about every link I posted on there either.
AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO TWEET ABOUT RAINBOW BACKGROUNDS EITHER!
Now I know you're doing everything you do to get my attention.
You got my attention. Happy now?
I'm writing a freaking blog post, cause I know you'll read it in the next five minutes, to tell you to BACK OFF!
You don't go talk about my life with some stranger you think is your BFF!
I never wanted to share this with you, why are you sharing this with someone you barely know? Now I know you get attached to the first thing that moves in front of you, that's your problem, don't make it mine!
You stubborn little kid. Go get some affection elsewhere!
Do you want me to shoo you away like a stray dog or something? Just leave me alone! GOSHHHH...
Oh, and one more thing, I DON'T WANT YOU LADY GAGA INTERVIEWS OR CONCERTS OR WHATEVER!
And don't you dare tell me how sorry you are, cause I don't want to know!
Jesus Christ...
But when you find something as personal as my my blog, which I never wanted to share with you, basically cause you scare the hell out of me, you don't start to read every freaking post I posted, and you don't start to tweet about every link I posted on there either.
AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO TWEET ABOUT RAINBOW BACKGROUNDS EITHER!
Now I know you're doing everything you do to get my attention.
You got my attention. Happy now?
I'm writing a freaking blog post, cause I know you'll read it in the next five minutes, to tell you to BACK OFF!
You don't go talk about my life with some stranger you think is your BFF!
I never wanted to share this with you, why are you sharing this with someone you barely know? Now I know you get attached to the first thing that moves in front of you, that's your problem, don't make it mine!
You stubborn little kid. Go get some affection elsewhere!
Do you want me to shoo you away like a stray dog or something? Just leave me alone! GOSHHHH...
Oh, and one more thing, I DON'T WANT YOU LADY GAGA INTERVIEWS OR CONCERTS OR WHATEVER!
And don't you dare tell me how sorry you are, cause I don't want to know!
Jesus Christ...
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Let's Talk About... Sex!
Why is a 16-year-old kid talking about sex?
1- I think we are lucky to have a doctor that comes every year at school to talk about sex and STDs. Rare are the schools that does that. Now of course, we haven't reached the point where the doctor starts talking about gay sex, but at least she keeps religion out of the topic, even if we're in a Catholic school.
2- Apparently, some people think that teenagers should know nothing about sex and never talk about it...
3- My friend's mom said that gay people tend to feel lonely, especially in Lebanon where finding someone is so hard. She said that sometime your loneliness reaches a point where you would just hook up with anybody. I do not completely agree but there's some truth in that.
Why are gay men more exposed to STDs?
Anal sex is the riskier sex act. It is riskier than both vaginal or oral sex whether it is penetrative or receptive... or whether you're top or bottom.
How to protect yourself? (Anal sex)
Always ask your partner about his health history!
Some STDs can be treated with antibiotics, but the risk exists until the treatment is complete.
If you are HIV+ you should share it with your partner, don't wait for him to ask. If both of you are HIV+, you'll still have to take some precautions since you can contract new strains of HIV.
A latex condom is a great way to reduce the risk of exposure to STDs, but a condom can break. To reduce the likelihood of this happening, use water-based lube instead of petroleum jellies.
I've watched this great commercial at the Night of the AdEaters! Loved it :)
1- I think we are lucky to have a doctor that comes every year at school to talk about sex and STDs. Rare are the schools that does that. Now of course, we haven't reached the point where the doctor starts talking about gay sex, but at least she keeps religion out of the topic, even if we're in a Catholic school.
2- Apparently, some people think that teenagers should know nothing about sex and never talk about it...
3- My friend's mom said that gay people tend to feel lonely, especially in Lebanon where finding someone is so hard. She said that sometime your loneliness reaches a point where you would just hook up with anybody. I do not completely agree but there's some truth in that.
Why are gay men more exposed to STDs?
Anal sex is the riskier sex act. It is riskier than both vaginal or oral sex whether it is penetrative or receptive... or whether you're top or bottom.
How to protect yourself? (Anal sex)
Always ask your partner about his health history!
Some STDs can be treated with antibiotics, but the risk exists until the treatment is complete.
If you are HIV+ you should share it with your partner, don't wait for him to ask. If both of you are HIV+, you'll still have to take some precautions since you can contract new strains of HIV.
A latex condom is a great way to reduce the risk of exposure to STDs, but a condom can break. To reduce the likelihood of this happening, use water-based lube instead of petroleum jellies.
I've watched this great commercial at the Night of the AdEaters! Loved it :)
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
24 hours later... Lebanon's IDAHO posters
Gone! Half the posters are just gone! Ugh!
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| I think the pope had something to do with this... |
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| Abou kees the guardian angel! |
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| This one has been attacked!! Outrageous.. |
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
To The Streets! Lebanon's IDAHO.
We finally did it! I've been procrastinating this for a week, mainly because I was freaking scared.
But after my friends told me they were overexcited about it. We did it.
We started hanging the IDAHO posters just after getting out of Fedex Sassine, walked to TSC Ashrafieh, then all the way to Sodeco, posted a couple on Aabd El Wahab, Rue du Liban and Huvelin.
I'll admit it, my heart was beating like it never did, and everytime some guy was walking next to us I would just sit and wait for him to pass.
I was freaked out the whole time while my friends were so relaxed and calm, which freaked me out some more!
Funniest moment of the night: Overexcited friend who took pictures with every posted they hanged and me stressing and screaming and looking everywhere to make sure nobody sees us.
Worst moment of the night: While hanging a poster, a car stopped. Someone opens the window and I see... my cousin. He asked what we were hanging. I've imagined this scenario the whole night so I spontaneously came out with a nice lie while standing between him and the poster.
We still have a lot of posters, and we're going to post the rest on Friday!
Thanks to the awesome friends and to the great Art Director @Zoozel
But after my friends told me they were overexcited about it. We did it.
We started hanging the IDAHO posters just after getting out of Fedex Sassine, walked to TSC Ashrafieh, then all the way to Sodeco, posted a couple on Aabd El Wahab, Rue du Liban and Huvelin.
I'll admit it, my heart was beating like it never did, and everytime some guy was walking next to us I would just sit and wait for him to pass.
I was freaked out the whole time while my friends were so relaxed and calm, which freaked me out some more!
Funniest moment of the night: Overexcited friend who took pictures with every posted they hanged and me stressing and screaming and looking everywhere to make sure nobody sees us.
Worst moment of the night: While hanging a poster, a car stopped. Someone opens the window and I see... my cousin. He asked what we were hanging. I've imagined this scenario the whole night so I spontaneously came out with a nice lie while standing between him and the poster.
We still have a lot of posters, and we're going to post the rest on Friday!
Thanks to the awesome friends and to the great Art Director @Zoozel
Today is International Day Against Homophobia!
For a while now, you have been reading stories submitted by readers on Lebanon's IDAHO blog!
You also might have spotted some posters about the day. (Check pictures on Beirut Boy's and Gaytheist's blog)
But now, it's out turn to share our stories!
With each “Ya foufou”, I’m getting stronger.
I will keep on walking, I’m happy with myself, my sexuality and my life.
You say I am plagued with a disease even though I might be your saviour doctor.
Accept us as we are, cause we are not going to change.
Every day at school, I have to get through the most hateful comments and actions.
I’m not going to let my love be a brick used to sink me.
I’m on the right track to self accomplishment doing my thing my way in my country.Read all about it here!
The LebIDAHO team:
Art Director: @zoozel
Thursday, May 12, 2011
The Pink Shorts.
A couple of friends got me some Tommy Hilfiger pink shorts for my birthday. I was so excited to show them to my parents, I was so proud of them. So I wear my shorts, get out of my room. First thing my dad says:
I'm sorry? What is there to be sorry about? If people knew I was gay just by looking at me in the street, I would walk taller and prouder than ever!
People? Are you afraid that the neighbors are going to see some pink shorts and judge me? Well, they are not all as narrowed minded as you are! Then they will talk like typical Lebanese people, rumors are going to spread a little bit everywhere in town. Oh, no! Maybe the people from church will hear about it, and then pray for the soul of your gay son who is going to hell! Maybe the people from work will also hear about it and start giving you weird looks in the office.
Think? Oh, if only you knew.
Gay? Stereotypes, Stereotypes, Stereotypes. Pink means gay now? Oh, I have some very straight friend who wear pink! It is actually really sexy and manly! If only you just got out of the 50s and looked around you, you would see how the world changed. You would have a cultural shock or something... Oh, you're just stuck between your office and church. Look around you! Welcome to the 20th century...
Sometime 10 words can mean so much more than 10 words.
"I'm sorry but people will think you're gay."
I'm sorry? What is there to be sorry about? If people knew I was gay just by looking at me in the street, I would walk taller and prouder than ever!
People? Are you afraid that the neighbors are going to see some pink shorts and judge me? Well, they are not all as narrowed minded as you are! Then they will talk like typical Lebanese people, rumors are going to spread a little bit everywhere in town. Oh, no! Maybe the people from church will hear about it, and then pray for the soul of your gay son who is going to hell! Maybe the people from work will also hear about it and start giving you weird looks in the office.
Think? Oh, if only you knew.
Gay? Stereotypes, Stereotypes, Stereotypes. Pink means gay now? Oh, I have some very straight friend who wear pink! It is actually really sexy and manly! If only you just got out of the 50s and looked around you, you would see how the world changed. You would have a cultural shock or something... Oh, you're just stuck between your office and church. Look around you! Welcome to the 20th century...
Sometime 10 words can mean so much more than 10 words.
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